Generosity by Kanani Briggs

Give: Generosity by Kanani Briggs

Are you one of those women who is constantly doing for others, but has a hard time doing anything for yourself? You know who you are. The one who is the “go to” for your friends, your family, your employees, your business partners, and the list goes on. But who is the “go to” for you? I’ve been there. Generosity is a core value for me. The foundation for my generous nature took root when I was a child. Raised by a single mom, struggling to make ends meet, our family was often the recipient of generosity by those around us. Being supported and cared for by a loving community of friends and family around me created an overwhelming sense of gratitude and need to pay it forward.

What I didn’t realize was that somewhere along the way, being generous to others took priority over taking care of myself and setting the boundaries necessary to maintain balance in my life. As moms, business owners, and entrepreneurs, our needs often take the back seat to those of our families and our businesses. Too often we don’t treat ourselves with the same generosity that we would offer a friend or colleague. I am here to encourage you to flip that paradigm. Start with being generous with yourself.


Here are a few tips to start the generosity flow within you:


  1. Make a list of 3 self-care absolutes that must be a part of your weekly routine. These are things that make you feel like you good, healthy and on top of your game. This is what helps you show up as the best version of you each and every day. Remember, don’t overlook sleep and the importance of getting enough of it.
  2. Make a list of 3 commitments that you need to let go of. What have you committed to that no longer serves you? What do you dread doing each week? These need to be kicked to the curb as soon as possible. If you are not able to get out of it now, make an exit plan and set a timeframe to move on. This is at the heart of being generous to yourself.
  3. Make a list of those annoying “to do” list items that you just haven’t found the time to do. Set time aside every week or once a month to tackle at least 3 of those items. Maybe it’s fixing that dent in the wall that makes you crazy every time you walk by or organizing that closet that annoys you each time you go to get something out. Believe it or not, taking care of the things that annoy you on a daily basis is a huge part of being generous to yourself and reducing your overall stress.
  4. Pamper yourself or celebrate your accomplishments on a routine basis. Take yourself out to lunch, purchase something special just because, sit and read for a few hours in the sunshine, get a mani/pedi or a massage…anything that celebrates you just for being you.

Generosity with you. Take care of yourself first and everyone you serve will be better for it.

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Kanani Briggs
Business & Life Strategist

Kanani Briggs is a business and life strategist with over 15 years experience in sales, marketing, and international business development. She helps women translate their corporate skills into socially conscious lifestyle businesses that provide financial abundance and revolve around their lives, not the other way around.